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Perfectly safe, unless you pull the trigger. |
There is no fail-safe way to keep children from accidentally
shooting themselves, but a responsible parent and gun owner can practically
eliminate the threat. First, educate a child about the dangers of guns and that
they are not toys. Second, teach children age-appropriate firearm safety.
Third, lock your guns up when you are not actively controlling them. No method
alone or combined is foolproof, but something is better than nothing. Assuming
that a safety briefing alone or strong words never to touch daddy’s gun isn’t
going to keep kids safe.
NSFW language warning:
I’m not going to mince words in the rest of this article.
Childhood gun accidents happen because of two main reasons;
loaded guns are left accessible to children and parents misjudge their children.
If combined into one cause, parents failed to imagine that the worst was
possible and that it was their duty to prevent it. Anyone who leaves a loaded
gun where a child can get at it is negligent and irresponsible. All firearms
should be kept holstered, under the direct and immediate control of an adult,
or locked away when kids are in the home.
Even teenagers shouldn’t have access to a firearm
unsupervised. As you will see below, even “trained” children can still kill
each other with guns. There are too many unknowns to rely on a child’s training
or integrity to leave a loaded gun unsecured. As you will see below, some
parents did teach their kids about
guns and shooting, yet tragedies happen.
No, we are not
discussing the one-offs where a teen successfully uses a gun in a legitimate
defensive situation. We’re talking about the bad parents here, not the decent
ones, so please spare me the links and angry comments about how your child is
great, blah blah blah. Make your own decisions, but do so intelligently, not
blindly assuming you’re some great expert and it won’t happen to you. Relying
on “trust” is a bad plan.
Frankly, most of the children who die or are injured in gun
accidents have irresponsible parents that are probably too stupid or negligent
to own firearms (or have children). By now, the danger of a loaded gun should
be obvious, but sadly, some morons think a gun in a drawer or on the top shelf
where a kid can’t see it is safe. I’d venture a guess these people have never
been educated about gun safety, lack much formal education, are generally
unintelligent, and are more concerned with themselves than their children.
We’re talking about the people who are the reasons for warning labels on
things.
Unsecured Guns
Casey
Mercer of Louisiana left his gun on the sofa after cleaning his guns
because he had to go to work. He did text his girlfriend to put the gun away,
but while his girlfriend found it more important to put the dog outside rather
than keep the gun out of children’s reach, Mercer’s toddler shot herself in the
head with the pistol. Congratulations dumbass, you killed your daughter because
you left a loaded gun on the couch.
On the couch! What the fuck?
The negligence of leaving a loaded handgun on the couch is
mind boggling. I question how anyone can be so stupid, lazy, and irresponsible.
Unloaded guns left out with the ammunition put away? Missed one because you
were in a hurry? Dropped out of your pants and you forgot it somehow?
Understandable, if not excusable. But no, he was late for work and didn’t want
to risk getting into trouble, so he took a chance and lost.
Think you can set a gun down somewhere and it will be safe?
A four-year old was shot with a gun
left
in a purse. A grandmother’s pistol, kept under a pillow, “went off” in the
middle of the night and
killed
her grandchild. Kids do inconceivable destructive things that take only the
imagination of a child to think of. Your common sense and logic not to fiddle
with guns does not apply to a kittle kid.
Amy
Pittman of North Carolina and her boyfriend kept firearms all over their
home. Social workers were called when her boys were seen chasing each other
through the neighborhood with guns. During the investigation, unsecured
firearms were found around the home. Pittman blamed her boyfriend and that she
didn’t know the guns were there, including the shotgun hidden behind a
refrigerator. This was the gun that her 12-year-old shot her 9-year-old in the
back with. The elder boy assumed that the gun was unloaded after shaking it.
Pittman, a real winner of a human being,
was
charged while her boyfriend went free. Only the mom had a duty to keep her
kids from shooting each other. Apparently, a boyfriend who has his girlfriend’s
children in the house has no responsibility. She blamed him because she claimed
she had no idea there were guns in the house. Right…surely you didn’t notice
the ammo in the sock drawer. Pittman even told a social worker who offered to
buy them a gun safe to buzz off. Wonder if the boyfriend visited Amy in jail?
Cause 1: Parental
Irresponsibility
In the above examples, the parents could have kept their
children safe. Mercer was too lazy to put his guns away or properly manage his
time so he could put the guns away without being late. Or maybe if his
girlfriend had worried less about having to clean up dog poop/pee she wouldn’t
have to worry about cleaning up the gore of that sweet little girl. It’s better
to be fired than to kill your child.
Pittman made practically every wrong decision at just about
every point in her life. The possibilities are endless. If she was a better
mother, perhaps her kids wouldn’t have been so unruly. Maybe if she had made
better life decisions, she would have been supervising her kids or not dating a
scumbag. She could have bought a safe or taken up the social worker’s offer. At
the very least, she should have taught her kids not to play with guns or that
you don’t shake a gun to check if it is loaded or not.
The off-body carry folks, especially the pillow grandmother,
never imagined that a gun essentially under their control would become a
danger. Purse carry around young children is reckless precisely because kids
look through and play with everything (remember the
dildo gun safety commercial?). Off-body carry is dangerous for just this reason,
especially given the case of the child who shot and
killed
a mother in Walmart with her own purse gun. She gets half a pass as
attended purse carry seems reasonable; this is why concealed carry instructors
had better be
damn clear off-body
carry is a terrible idea around kids and idiots.
These others were likely poorly educated (about guns is all
I’m willing to speculate here) and careless to the n-th degree. While mandating gun safety education and making it a
felony for stupid people to own guns would be ideal, it would be as
unconstitutional as prohibiting morons from sharing their verbal diarrhea in
public or online. Or breeding. As it is, all you can do is try and impress gun
safety across the board any way you can.
Maturity Misjudgment
Brooklyn
Mohler of Henderson was shot and killed when her 14-year-old friend tried
to show off her dad’s handgun that he left accessible for his daughter’s
protection. The 14-year-old was trying to “disarm” the gun somehow when
Brooklyn got shot. The gun owner was not charged, apparently after the DA’s
office claimed no law had been violated. Someone is lying, because
NRS 202.300,
though complicated, does prohibit generally leaving loaded guns around.
A child 14 or older may have access to a handgun if, they
have written permission from a parent for possession at their residence;
however, that section (7) is negated by section (8), which prohibits a minor
from handling a loaded firearm within any residence, including his or her own
residence, unless, possession of the firearm is necessary for immediate
self-defense. Immediate self-defense does not include the theoretical need for self-defense;
the exemption is a protection to prevent prosecution of a child who uses a gun
solely to defend themselves. The gun owner certainly could be charged, but it
appears the decision fell under prosecutorial discretion and no one looked at
the statute hard enough to challenge the call or publicly disclaim it.
14-year-old
Kenzo Dix died in an incident similar to Brooklyn. A friend who was
overconfident with his father’s handgun removed the magazine but didn’t clear
the chamber. Instead of blaming the imbecile of a friend and his equally
irresponsible father, Dix decided it was the gun’s fault. He championed loaded
chamber indicators for California handguns (you know, “loaded when up”). Mr.
Dix feels that many firearms are unsafe by design and “the gun industry is a
threat to many American families.”
Right. A little tab poking up is going to suddenly make
children of all ages realize the chamber is loaded and clear the pistol. Sort
of like those warning labels on cigarettes keep kids from smoking. Someone who
is so unfamiliar with firearms that they do not know to verify the chamber is
empty or keep your finger off the trigger while pulling back the slide is probably
not going to understand what the little thing protruding from the slide means
(at least until Ruger makes a gun with an audio warning and flashing lights).
Mr. Dix can’t blame the friend (that’s too mean) and getting
mad at the dad won’t solve the problem, but he can get mad at the gun industry
and blame them. Why place the guilt where it belongs when you can demonize a
faceless group of corporations? Like how victims of drunk drivers all blame the
car industry…never mind. Instead, Mr. Dix gets to tell his sob story and get legislation
passed to add yet more crap to a gun that won’t do a damn to save lives. All
because it isn’t about saving lives, it’s about feelings.
Cause 2: Parental
Hubris
These two died because of parental hubris; that their kid
knew about guns and wasn’t going to play around with them when mom and dad are
home. Sadly, this kind of attitude is all too common around gun owners. A lot
of parents probably thought that. Hopefully, your kids are the rare ones who
are mature and respectful enough not to go playing with guns.
But what if a friend comes over and finds it? Do you truly
have a special child who is entirely trustworthy, or are you assuming that your
child would never do anything like that? The last thing you want is your
weekend getaway interrupted by a call from the police because the teen party
broke up because Jimmy Stoner found your bedside gun and blew off his
girlfriend head during some sex game in your bed.
That’s a bit of an exaggeration, of course, but far too
often we see clueless parents believing their children are blameless and who
continue to deny reality crying “he
dindu
nuffin!” Don’t believe that other people’s kids go through your stuff when
you aren’t around? A promising high school
football
star died when just that happened. Just because you are middle-class and
shoot regularly doesn’t mean that you are magically exempt from instances of
teenage dumbassery.
Teens think they know everything and consequently find
themselves in deep precisely because of overconfidence. Kenzo and Brooklyn died
because they did not have enough maturity or discipline to leave the gun alone
and overestimated their firearms proficiency. Because development of the brain
is not complete, teens often act on impulse, engage in risky behavior, and act
without thinking or considering the consequences of their actions. If they can
access the gun, they can’t do anything reckless with it.
Education and heart-to-heart talks can only do so much.
Despite modern sex-ed and easily obtainable birth control, teen girls still get
pregnant, but it is much easier to put guns in a safe than it is to lock one’s
boys and girls in their closets until their hormones stop raging. If you won’t
trust them with booze, a computer in their bedroom, or staying out late, why
are you trusting them with your guns?
Cause 3: Insufficient
Training and Experience
“I’ve trained my kids about gun safety and they would never
touch a gun if I wasn’t around. And if they did, then they would know
how to safely use it.” Perhaps your kid is that one in a thousand who is trustworthy
and had the benefit of years of range trips with you, but hope is not a plan.
Not very many gun owners raise their children in a culture of gun safety and as
a consequence, mistake limited experience for competence.
Both stories above say that “the gun went” off, as if the
gun fired of its own accord. No, the trigger was pulled because of poor trigger
discipline, failure to clear the gun, and total disregard for basic firearm
safety. Failure to instill trigger discipline is a result of poor training and
a lack of experience with firearms. No knowledge that leads to inaction is
better than partial knowledge that leads to doing something unsafe. I would bet
that the children’s experience with guns was rudimentary and focused little on
safety.
Too many young people are exposed to guns the same way porn
exposes them to sex; they’re stimulated, but lack command of the fundamentals
to avoid getting themselves into trouble. If shooting is regarded as a rare
treat, rather than a serious activity like driving practice, a teen is likely
not to come away with good habits. Learning to drive isn’t a trip around the
block and then driving to the DMV. Mom and Dad being lazy is not the whole reason why you had to drive them
around when you were 15. Just like driving takes practice, so does firearm
handling proficiency.
A 19 year old high school student (wait…)
died
on prom night in a Corvette his mother rented for him. Apparently, it is a
tradition in that area to rent high-end cars for prom night. I doubt that these
kids have access to these kinds of cars or experience driving anything with
that kind of power, as
this
video seems to show from the teen’s and his friends’ reactions. A family
friend told me of his nephew’s death here in Las Vegas many years ago in a brand-new
Mustang that his mother mistakenly bought him. Despite being begged not to race
the car, the teen did just that after high school one day and crashed and died.
Neither of the dead boys had any prior experience with muscle cars or any
respect for their power.
A teen who knows how to clear a firearm, but does not have
the experience and discipline to keep his finger firmly off the trigger can
fire the gun when attempting to retain it against the force of the recoil
spring as he retracts the slide. Just enough knowledge to be dangerous. Spend
some time on a public range or in a beginner’s class and look at all the people
the RSO has to yell at to stop flagging others. Few of these shooters have the
experience, the interest, or take guns as seriously, as we do and as a result
treat guns as more of a lark. This embarrassing habit goes away when safety is
eventually beaten into their head.
Had many of these “knowledgeable” teens kept the gun pointed
away from themselves or friends, when their finger slipped and hit the trigger
the gun would have fired in a safer direction, hurting no one. Sadly, no one
instilled them with that rule.
Solutions
There is no perfect solution for careless parents and gun
owners. We can’t make people be smarter. We can’t make them stop and consider
if putting a gun on the top shelf is really making it safe. We can’t force
parents to critically appraise their own training skills. We can’t force
parents to admit their kids aren’t as smart and perfect as they want them to
be. We can’t make people care more about their children than themselves. We
can’t make everyone as adept as we are.
Defense in depth is the way to go. Teach young kids to stay
the hell away from guns. Allow the older ones to learn respect for firearms and
to develop good gun habits. Lastly, keep them locked away whenever possible to
reduce the chances of a random variable happening to you. Each one of these
steps can prevent one specific
mechanism of gun accident, but only by securing guns can anything but
deliberate action be avoided.
All we can do is teach and warn. As long as dangerous things
exist, children will die in accidents that could have been prevented by better
parenting. By following these simple suggestions, we can help reduce accidental
firearm deaths. Remember, no one is exempt from shit happens.
Don’t Touch, Run Away
An instructor friend of mine says “Do you remember the last
time you hear of a kid catching on fire? Of course not. We teach fire safety
and ‘stop, drop, and roll’ is ingrained.” Imagine how much safer everyone would
be if the danger of guns was taught in schools (in an age-appropriate manner)
every year. In a fair number of cases, had the victim simply got up and left
when the gunplay started, they would be alive today.
The innocent victims of these tragedies could have prevented
their own deaths or injuries by simply removing themselves from danger. One of
the
firearm safety rules taught to
children is to run away from a gun. The NRA says, “This removes the
temptation to touch the firearm as well as the danger that another person may
negligently cause it to fire.” It’s a rule better suited to little kids, but
even teenagers can benefit.
Running away may not be “cool” to a teenager, but getting
away from a friend playing with mom’s or dad’s gun is a very good way to not be
in the line of fire when Johnny Jackass pulls the trigger. Even Kenzo and
Brooklyn might have lived if they noped it out of their friend’s house. The
ideal child of a gun owner would have the maturity to not worry about losing
face with his friends. Reality is different. Peer pressure and the desire to
look cool or not appear frightened causes kids to make poor decisions, even if
they know better.
It’s not just at home, either. There is a startling number
of stories of guns being found in parks and abandoned houses where children are
injured and killed when they start playing with the guns. Run away, tell an
adult!
The problem is that firearm safety training for children is
rare and depends almost entirely on the parents seeking out or giving that
education to their kids. Gun safety is not taught in school. My police station
had boxes of unused NRA Eddie Eagle material (but free locks flew out the door,
thankfully). It is a shame that the taboo on guns has gone so far that anti-gun
leftists have made it impossible to teach children to avoid these dangerous
situations. So, parents, the responsibility is yours.
Respect and Fear the
Gun
No sure-fire solutions exist to safeguard one’s children at
all times, but the best thing a responsible parent and gun owner can do is
teach respect for firearms from an early age. I know one couple that taught
their son to keep his toy guns holstered and always keep his finger off the
trigger. When he becomes a teen, he will likely have both the respect and
discipline to avoid gun accidents, but such training is rare. This is behavior
that must be reinforced. It is not something learned in an afternoon on the gun
range.
If you understand the dangers and consequences of firearms,
you are much less likely to kill or injure yourself or someone else. There is a
reason why
reputable firearm instructors don’t put guns, unloaded or
otherwise, to the heads of their trainees or anyone else. Yet a teenage woman
killed her boyfriend after shooting a gun at him
for
a YouTube video, assuming a phone book would stop a .50 caliber handgun
round. Phone books are concealment, not cover. She neglected a fundamental rule
of gun safety; “never point a gun at anything you are not willing to shoot”
(like your boyfriend).
That death was partially ignorance for not understanding the
power of the .50 Action Express cartridge and partially a total lack of respect
for the danger of shooting at a human being. Don’t let your kids win the Darwin
Award. Had those two poor lovers righteously feared the power of guns, no one
would even know they existed, aside from the viewers of their bad channel. You
don’t let someone shoot you unless you are a cast member of “Jackass” or you
are selling bulletproof vests.
Children and teens with limited exposure to firearms do not
respect the danger of guns. Far too many adults are guilty of the same, like
this
mom who found a gun and pulled the trigger to see if it was loaded. In
Korea, range accidents (among suicides) are rampant because of no exposure to
guns among the population, leading to measures like RSOs
wearing
vests and chaining guns up during firing (read the comments on the link).
Many of the employees at tourist ranges here in Nevada can tell you many
similar stories about customers who have no idea how one fumble of the trigger
with the muzzle in the wrong direction can be disastrous.
A healthy fear of anything dangerous is necessary to stay
alive. Responsible gun owners jump all over YouTubers for not clearing a gun on
camera or gun store clerks for muzzling customers with a gun that is 99.9%
probably empty. That is because we understand the danger and know “better safe
than sorry.” The first rule of gun safety is to treat every firearm as if it
were loaded. If that one rule were always obeyed, gun accidents would decline
dramatically. It isn’t paranoia.
Lock Them Up!
It’s all fun and games to blame people for leaving their car
unlocked or values in sight when their stuff gets stolen, but it sure sucks
when it happens to you, right? Just that
one time can turn into a stolen phone and a broken window. Still better
than a child’s life because an accidental shooting couldn’t happen to you.
Training all children isn’t realistic. Plenty of parents
talk about their incorrigible kids who never listen and always get into
trouble. Just because you teach a child something doesn’t necessarily mean they
will understand or obey. It isn’t going to work because you can’t train the
neighbors’ kids or the friends that get invited over to your house. Your
perfect child might not mess with the gun under your mattress, but that no-good
friend of theirs will and isn’t smart enough to avoid sending a bullet into
your precious little angel.
The best precaution is to lock away the guns. If they can’t
get at it, they can’t hurt themselves. Yes, gun safes of all sorts can be picked,
combinations guessed, and keys found, but defeating a determined attempt to get
a gun isn’t the point. It is to remove as much temptation as possible, to make
things difficult, and to keep guns from falling into the hands of young
children. Amy Pittman’s children could have been alive if they were taught to
respect guns, true, but they certainly would be alive if her boyfriend had put
the guns in a safe too.
When it comes to self-defense, you take every reasonable
precaution, right? You use hollow points, you keep your gun clean, you carry
extra mags, you have night sights, a light, you train regularly in practical
situations, you practice drawing, and you mentally rehearse scenarios. But why
don’t you take all the reasonable precautions to avoid an accident? Lock your
guns up, please. No matter how smart you think you are and how well-behaved
your kids are, shit happens. Don’t be that guy who makes us look bad and who is
responsible for the death of a child.
Should parents be
prosecuted?
Prosecution for parental negligence after child shootings is
rare and inconsistent. Laws vary from state to state. Many feel that it is
wrong to punish someone after losing their child and it accomplishes nothing.
They get quite hot under the collar when you suggest something so “inhumane.” I
wonder how many of those don’t lock up their guns properly and they imagine
themselves in hot water. But does it do any good to punish parents after the
“ultimate” punishment of losing a child?
Fuck sympathy and not adding insult to injury—this isn’t a
traffic collision. Put the responsible party away for a year, no more, no less,
so they can think about what they did and never own a gun again. If you let a
child get shot for leaving out a gun, you have forfeited your right to own one
ever again. I’m guessing
this
winner doesn’t have much in the way of remorse and so punishment is right
up his alley.
Make them remember what happened and why they are in jail so
they can reconsider the poor decisions leading up to this point. If they were
too stupid or too selfish to think about the safety of their children, then
give them a time out to think now. Let them be tortured and haunted by the
horror and learn their lesson. Perhaps they will emerge as better, more
considerate members of society.
Prosecute and incarcerate as a warning to others; not so
much as to instill a fear of jail (one should fear a dead child more), but for
publicity. Maybe someone will see the story on the news and secure their gun.
The average public is far more likely to see and respond to a tragic accident
than they would to a proactive offer of gun safety training or supplies. The
prospect of grieving alone in prison is not one that any parent would want.
Do what you can to save a life.